I have passed more than a week
in my host organization here in Nepal. I have got a calendar from the
office where the holidays are mentioned. I found that August 28th was a
holiday and planning to visit some place in Kathmandu Valley. But it
shocked me when I heard that this is special holiday only for the women
staffs of my office. Then I asked my colleagues about the day. From them
I have learnt that this "Teej" festival is the fasting festival for the
women. That's why they got special holiday. Married women used to visit
their parents house to meet them. On this festivals women dance in joy,
pray for their husband, children and family.
To celebrate the day all the male staffs including the FK Fellows of
SAMATA Foundation, we organize the lunch for our female staffs. All the
male staffs gave some money and from that we money cooking staffs were
bought. The day was on 26 August, Tuesday. Me and Sonu Kumar Yadav (FK
Fellow from India), both of us, were very much excited about this
program. We along with Surya (intern at SAMATA Foundation) assisted our
Maya Didi, Chief of the Kitchen, in cooking that day's lunch. She cooked
some special dishes like-Polau, Chicken Curry, Rajam and also brought
Dai for us. Being a vegetarian Sonu prepared a veg-dish with Panir for
the vegetarians including him. At lunch time all the female staffs were
given priority to take the food first and we all had lunch together at
ground floor of the office. It was really a nice day and good way to
respect women. This event was a great experience for me to learn and
respect my mother, sisters, relatives, female friends and other women in
a very different way. And yes I agreed, this day women should be given
special holiday.
Here I am sharing the story on "Teej" to understand the festival. It's collected from internet-
Teej" is the fasting festival for women. It takes place in August or
early September in every year. The festival is a three-day long
celebration that combines sumptuous feasts as well as rigid fasting.
Through this religious fasting, hindu women pray for marital bliss, well
being of their spouse and children and purification of their own body
and soul.
Traditionally, the ritual of Teej is obligatory for all Hindu married
women and girls who have reached puberty. Exception is made for the
ones who are ill or physically unfit. In such circumstances a priest
performs the rites. According to the holy books, the Goddess Parbati
fasted and prayed fervently for the great Lord Shiva to become her
spouse. Touched by her devotion, he took her for his wife. Goddess
Parbati, in gratitude sent her emissary to preach and disseminate this
religious fasting among mortal women, promising prosperity and longevity
with their family. Thus was born the festival of Teej.
The first day of Teej is called the "Dar Khane Din". On this day the
women, both married and unmarried, assemble at one place, in there
finest attires and start dancing and singing devotional songs. Admist
all this, the grand feast takes place. The jollity often goes on till
midnight, after which the 24 – hour fast commences. Some women without a
morsel of food or drops of water while others take liquid and fruit
Gaily dressed women can be seen dancing and singing on the street
leading to Shiva temples. But the main activities take place around the
Pashupatinath temple where women circumambulate the Lingam, the phallic
symbol of the lord, offering flowers, sweets and coins. The main puja
(religious ceremony) takes place with offerings of flowers, fruits etc
made to Shiva and Parbati, beseeching their blessing upon the husband
and family. The important part of the puja is the oil lamp which should
be alight throughout the night for it is bad omen if it dies away.
The third day of the festival is Rishi Panchami. After the completion
of the previous day's puja, women pay homage to various deities and
bathe with red mud found on the roots of the sacred Datiwan bush, along
with its leaves. This act of purification is the final ritual of Teej,
after which women are considered absolved from all sins. The recent
years have witnessed alteration in the rituals, especially concerning
the severity, but its essence remains. No matter how agonizing the fast
may be Nepalese women have and will always continue to have faith in the
austerities of Teej.